Step Parenting Made Easy
Step Parenting is a topic that so many people have serious issues dealing with. Every parent has a dream to have a happy family and raise their children in the best atmosphere ever where there is peace, joy and love in the family. But sometimes it doesn’t always happen like that. The problem starts when each parent doesn’t seem to agree with each other’s idea anymore and before you know it they are already breaking up and calling it a quit. Most of the times children get to see these disagreements between their parents which are a lot already traumatic for them. So getting to adjust with someone who is not their biological parent might be difficult, not to even talk of the fact that they were not really comfortable with their own biological parent in the first place. When parents break up and get married to another partner that is when step parenting begins.
If you are a step parent and you are confused and do not know what to do to get your step kid(s) to love you here are some tips that can move your seemingly step parenting nightmare into a beautiful morning.
Tips for Step Parents
Being a step parent is not an easy task at all; I can say that because I have been a victim. I was a little boy when my mama left my dad. The reason for her leaving was because my elder sister got pregnant and my dad said he can’t have her stay with him any longer and that she needs to relocate and go stay with my grandmamma. This idea was just too crazy for my mama to agree with, but after series of talking she finally agreed to have relocated. On the day that my sister was to leave my mama said she is going to take her to my grandma herself. She took her to my grandma with previous agreement but when she got there and stayed for about two weeks she decided on her own that she is not coming back again to my dad. That decision was already traumatic for me and my siblings. One year later my dad got married to other women with the reason which we had never seen before.
At that point all I did was to fight and complain about everything she did to my dad, she was not friendly either. She yells at me and makes different attempt to hit me which I did not like. I might not be able to go into all the detail of the story. But the whole idea behind this story is that her behavior was already wrong towards me so I fought her with everything I had. She was able to last for 5 years after which she had to leave because my dad started having problems with her too.
As a step parent you need to understand that the mother or father of the child you are about to leave with might like you at the first instance but your attitude and actions towards them can change everything. Try as much as possible not to take things too personal because they are only trying to protect their home which is normal for every ones.
Step parenting would be easier for you if you start to love your step children irrespective of what they do to you. “Life is an echo it gives back what you give,” the corresponding action to love is love. With time and a consistent showing of love, your step child (ren) will learn to love and respect you.
Your step children have a high possibility of making your marriage work or not work. So, take your time, observe them, be patient, respect their privacy and above all love them. If you can do this things getting a blissful marriage should not be a nightmare.
